Episode 75: What If it’s Not Really Fear That’s Holding You Back?

So there’s one word that I hear a lot in my line of work. The word “fear”.

It’s all over the place.

“Conquer your fears!”

“Fear is destroying your life.”

“Face your fears or lose everything.”

And I get it. I really do. We’ve all had that experience when we do something that felt really scary at first, but we went ahead and did it anyway – usually to find out that it wasn’t so bad after all.

But what about other fears? The “little” ones?

You know, like spiders and the dark and “crunchy bugs” – those bugs that make a crunchy sound when you step on them (that’s one of my best friend’s fears).

I mean, those are fears too, right? And they don’t destroy your life or make you “lose everything”.

Fears run the gamut and they’re real. And, we all have them.

Some are on the more annoying or inconvenient side, like having to take the stairs when you’re afraid of the elevator.

Others can truly be crippling and obvious, like being too afraid to leave the house.

And then there are those that are crippling and sneaky. Fears like, “What if people make fun of me” or “I’m really bad at handling money” or “They’re going to find out I’m not good enough.”

In today’s episode, I hang out more in this last category of fears. The fears that are crippling but hidden, they’re sneaky little suckers and they will, in fact, rob you of your dreams, your wisdom and your best next steps.

So in today’s episode, I thought we could reframe this idea of ‘fears” together. Maybe there’s a better way to look at these fears.

I’ll walk you through how I’ve been doing this with some of my clients over the years, and how it’s helped them take bigger risks – but only once a plan is in place and an assessment has been made.

My challenge for you after listening to this episode is to picture something you’ve wanted to do for a while. Maybe it’s starting a new business or writing a book or launching a new initiative.

Think about what’s been stopping you from doing that. Those are the “fears” that you can reframe, clear out and make a plan for as you listen to this episode.

So, pop in those earphones, and let’s get to it. Your dreams are waiting.

If you loved this episode of the Game On Girlfriend Podcast, you might also enjoy Episode 73: Stop Explaining Yourself and Kick Overwhelm to the Curb