Episode 195: The Breakthrough I Didn’t Know I Needed
I’m coming at you today from Las Vegas to talk to you about our hidden fears and not understanding what is keeping us stuck. I want to share with you what my hidden breakthrough was, what we're going to be doing now that I'm on the other side, and how you can cause that breakthrough for yourself.
I think it's so important that, as a business coach, I'm honest with you about what's happening in my life, and what's happening in my business and that nothing is hidden. When we turn to coaches, we want to turn to people who understand how to bring out the best in us. To do that, they've had to learn how to bring out the best in their house -- and this week I have had my own breakthrough around something I just absolutely really hate doing in business.
This breakthrough will change everything
Confession: I hate social media. I’m not going to pretend otherwise. I didn’t realize it made me sad to say that until I had this breakthrough. Let me explain!
I’m with my girls celebrating a 50th birthday. We’re having a wonderful time. One of the things I cherish most about my friendships is how honest we are with each other. We've been friends for so long that we can really explain things and hear what the other is saying.
As we were talking about what's bothering us right now, I said, “You know, everybody is so great on social media and I don't even want to play.” Maybe you can relate to that. I know I've been hearing this a lot. Social media has changed. It's just absolutely become this different animal. What I realized in the conversation is my heart was actually broken by social media. Stick with me.
My background is in tech. I was a very early adopter of social media. I loved reconnecting with friends. I changed people’s minds about certain social issues there – it was just this beautiful connective space.
I enjoyed being on Twitter. We know what’s happened right? We know the vitriol that exists there. We know people don’t listen to each other anymore. And it absolutely broke my heart.
Breakthroughs that serve you
I thought it was really important to share that with you because obviously now my perspective has changed, what I think is possible is going to change, what I want to see from social media, what I'm going to want to see for myself and for my team is going to change.
We're talking about the kind of breakthroughs that could actually serve you. In my example, I had made social media bad and wrong. It's bad. I hate it. And the underlying truth there was that it had broken my heart. I was scared to invest more time and energy into it because it might break my heart again. Well, that's something I can actually start to work on and deal with. I want you to think right now of something in your life or something in your business that you know is a block for you. Maybe it's eating healthier or exercising more or reading more books or doing a little bit more research … something that you know you've had in you for a while. But you're postponing.
The idea is when we are stuck, when there is a point that we refuse to go past, that's a block. Because it's very different to actively choose that something isn't right for you versus something that continues to bother you. And to be totally straight with you, that's what caused the breakthrough today. I was like, “Listen, this keeps coming up for me is why am I not participating in this area? And I keep saying, because I hate it.”
That's very different for me to say, I hate it, versus I've actively chosen not to participate there because I'm working on XYZ. In this exercise, what I'd like you to listen for is:
That's for other people.
I can't do that.
That's never going to work for me.
I'm not good enough to do that.
Are you not asking for more for your products and services? Are you not taking the extra time to learn about something that may bring in more revenue? Are you not taking care of your friends, family, or your own body in a way that would serve you? This is what life is for; we hit a ceiling, and we literally break through it.
Truth behind lack of action
To recap, the three steps are:
1. Figure out where you're stopped because that's a block.
2. What you're saying to yourself about that.
3. Ask what's the actual fear? What's the real thing that's happening for you?
And once you can see that fear, look at what actions can you take right now. List three actions you could take right now that could move you from that old belief into a new reality.
From my heart to yours, you will be seeing some different social media from Team Sarah very soon. I'm back. I'm really excited about that. I really want to know what actions are you going to take. What are you seeing from this? Where can you go from this?
Don't let your old beliefs and other things that you learned when you were little continue to run your life. We don't have time for that. We all know the world is burning. We all know your gifts are yours for a reason, and you need to start dealing with the stuff you need to breakthrough so the world can benefit from what you have to offer us. We need you.
