Episode 185: What You REALLY NEED from an Intuitive Business Coach
We've all had those moments, whether at a corporate job or running your own businesses, where you're exhausted and feel like the money isn't worth it. It's so easy to lose sight of what matters to US.
I am on vacation with my son in Rhode Island for a soccer camp. We were getting some lunch the other day, and I asked to take a minute and listen to the other moms. We heard: Do you have enough food? Did you get enough water? What do you want for dinner? Does anyone want to do a boating trip?
They were planning for EVERYONE. This happens so easily. We are so incredible; we do so many things. We are capable. And what can come with that is a disappearance of us and why we're doing the things we're doing.
Why you need a coach at your side
Picture this: It's Monday morning, and you're doing everything and looking at your bank statement. You may be looking at an email. Maybe someone says they're going to pass on your offer. There's always a trigger for us to feel like, "I don't even know why I'm doing this."
This is where we need someone by our side. We don't do well when we stay in our heads. We ruminate; we look for the negatives. We see all the wrong things.
You don't need an intuitive business coach who will tell you everything happens for a reason. To feel. To manifest. You need somebody who uses their intuition to guide you and back up your next moves with data.
We scare the heck out of ourselves and it's critical that we have someone to turn to in those moments. However, if you turn to someone who says “oh, it's just all there for a reason, don't worry about it.” Well, I'm stuck right now. What do I do?
I understand the drive to make someone feel better. You need to surround yourself with people who get what you're going through. That acknowledgment alone will make you feel so much better.
There’s an analogy in Eckhart Tolle’s book, “The Power of Now” where he talks about a car being stuck in the mud. If you are pounding on the steering wheel going, “I can't believe this. I can't believe this; I can't this is so horrible” – you won’t find a solution. You’re too busy being upset to acknowledge what is happening.
That sounds flippant at first, but it’s actually very profound. Get a coach who really gets in the moment with you. You are stuck and it feels awful. It's really difficult to pour your heart and soul into something and then watch it not go the way you thought it was going to go. We need to tell the truth about that. And when we’re validated what happens is you can actually let go of the emotion.
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Coaches change your behavior
And now that we’ve let that go, what do you want to do about it? This is where the "woo-woo, just feel good" starts to upset me. As a coach, I take my job to alter human behavior very seriously.
If you've worked with a coach, you're doing that because there's a behavior you have yet to overcome. Or there's something you're doing where you're sabotaging yourself that you're not yet able to overcome. Or you know you're supposed to be doing one thing and yet you find yourself consistently doing something else.
That's the human behavior we're talking about. That is a coaching job. If you are finding yourself in those moments, it's time to hire a coach, a good coach, not a “woo woo” coach, a good coach. And I don’t want to knock the “woo”; you have to be able to see new possibilities. You have to be able to believe in an abundant world and then back that up with massive ACTION.
Create the possibilities
You need a coach who can create the possibility with you.
I really want this launch to go well.
I really want my business to be successful.
I don't want to feel this crunched for time.
Ok, let's create that possibility. What would it be like if… What's happening in the moment when you're choosing to go against that? What's driving that behavior? That is the work of a coach. And from that work comes an action plan.
There is no three-step process to making your business blow up. But there is a process of discovering why you're not doing what you know you must do. There's a process to working on your visibility. There's a process to working on your action plan when you don't feel like it. There's a process to expanding your mindset and your ability to handle more success. But it's not one-two-three MAGIC.
It takes practice. It takes measuring. It takes going back and forth and saying: okay, I did this thing. This is what worked. This is what didn't. Why? What happened here? That is the work of owning a business. It's hard, but it's doable.
Are you ready to hire a coach?
If you feel like there is a new future for you…
if you are not lit up by the life you are leading right now …
It is time to get a coach who works with data. It is time to get a coach who fires you up. It is time to get a coach to work on your action plan. It is time to get a coach who will work on your mindset.
If you're ready, get an intuitive business coach, but get one who backs their work up with data and findings.
There is more to life than grinding. There is more to life than staring at your screen, wondering what's wrong with you. There is another pathway through here.
Go make today freaking amazing!
